Archive for August, 2011

Back to school already?

August 23, 2011

I really hate this time of year! I hate school shopping, mind you being able to shop online has helped this issue immensely! I don’t look forward to making lunches, fighting with Punky to get dressed and eat in the morning, and most of all I hate the way life is about to speed up once again.
I love summer holidays, not necessarily because of the weather, or holidays, but because life slows down, I have time to read a book (or in this summers case a TON of books!), and I really enjoy having more time to relax with. Dude and Punky. I love just sitting, I love the slower pace summer brings, no rushing out the door, rushing to appointments so I am back by such and such a time, rushing to get supper on the table, etc!
This year we are going to venture down a new road with our Dude, and I am truly hoping this journey brings us, and mainly him a bit of peace 🙂 I am hoping that his brain gets a break, because Lord knows it needs one. His brain and mental load has been overloaded for so long, and for his health it needs a break.
What many people don’t understand when dealing with a child with mental illness,etc, is that it truly is a life or death situation, and you have to tread so lightly and balance things just right, for fear of tipping the boat!
Because his mental state is so very fragile we need to help him to be the healthiest, happiest possible, as we all do with all of our children, this too me is THE most important part of being a parent. And if we don’t look out for our babies, who will? It is our job as parents to love, guide, and protect our little angels, and I take this job very seriously 🙂 With Dude this can be very trying, where with Punky you can explain things, and ease her fears anxieties in a sensible fashion. When you throw mental illness into the picture rational thinking is over taken by irrational thoughts and fears, and saying “it’s ok, it’s not really that bad, etc” just doesn’t cut it.
Dude becomes so mentally fatigued throughout the day, that by 3:00 he can’t even think straight. It takes ALOT of reassuring, talking, deep breathing and other strategies to help him over come what ever his day held. Life is tough on kids, and I think we as adults tend to forget just how tough it is, and I know for Dude it can be heart wrenching. I become heart-broken when I think how care free and fun childhood should be, and realize that Dude has never really had that. Now all children have their struggles, bad days, etc. Punky will come home after a long or trying day and require a lot of TLC1 The difference between your “average” children and children like Dude who suffer greatly mentally he has never been care free, not one day has he been worry free since the age of 5. Dude has the best laugh, and because we hear it so infrequently it makes it that much sweeter 🙂
What may send your “average” kid into tears or a fit, will throw children like Dude into a very scary place, with Dude that can include anything from meltdowns, to self harming, and as a parent you hate that Hug just isn’t going to cut it!
Dude is one of the strongest people I know because as an adult I am not even sure if I could cope the way he does, he has incredible strength and control, but for once I want him to be care and worry free, and let us help carry his load.
So here we go! Bring on the lunch kits, the sports, the crazy schedule, cause Mom’s we are the glue that holds the house together, and we can make it through anything 🙂
I am going to share a quote going around that I feel very fitting for the beginning of another school year 🙂

BEFORE you judge my life or my character .. WALK in my shoes, walk the path I have travelled, LIVE my sorrow, my doubts, my fear, my pain, my laughter …!!! REMEMBER Judge not lest ye be judged, Everyone has their own story! And then you can judge me!

Here’s to 100 years!!

August 17, 2011

This post has nothing to do with my kids, but it has much to do with their history!!
As I sit here typing I can’t help but wonder what I would be doing here in this wonderful town 100 years ago!! I wouldn’t be on a computer for sure!!
Now though I was not born and raised here, many generations of my family before me were, which is part of the reason we chose to call this home!
I think back and try really hard to imagine life 100 years ago, imagine the dirt roads, the horse and wagons, the open doors, and the fresh air. Instead of the noise of cars whipping past, pavement full of pot holes, and locked doors! I cherish every tale that I hear of days gone past, because we are loosing so many of those stories, so many from a generation gone past, and the peaceful slow, hard-working life that they led.
My family planted roots here in 1905, my children our 6th generation in this caring, lovely community. I take a lot of pride in that, I take pride in the fact that our family has lived here so long, and so many of my family members were raised either in town, the country, or the neighbouring small village. This is the heart of our family, and I hope to continue to keep it that way for many more years to come!
When I opened our business, it was with hopes of bringing back some memories from generations before us. An open door policy, greeted with a smile, and a little chat as you wandered around. What makes it more special is the fact that I have the chance to do this in the family home, bringing more of that generation back.
I have always said I would have loved to live many years ago, not because it would be easier, because Lord knows it wasn’t with the depression, wars, and hard hard work! But because of the people!
When I think of my Grandparents, and Great AUnts and Uncles I think of kind, open hearted, and ye shard working people. But I also think of the calm. Maybe it’s because they lived through so much that they took things a little more in stride then we do today. They knew what great loss was, what going hungry meant, yet they never quit! Never asked for help, but always had time to visit or help a neighbour.
I guess what I am saying is they weren’t so self absorbed, so concerned with the biggest house, the best clothes, the newest toys, because those weren’t options. They made do with what they had, and dammit that was good enough!
I try really hard to think of them when I am worrying about money, cars, toys and clothes, and remember that there is so much more to life than those things! I have always said I want a home built out of Love not money, and I still stick to that!
YEs somethings in the year 2011 are better than in 1911, but looking back I think our whole generation could really learn a thing or two from those before us 🙂
I take pride in this community because it has stood the test of time, and has kept alive a lot of those values that have been here for a hundred years! Here we still smile to each other on the street, we still help a neighbour in need, we still have our doors open, and yes we still have fresh air!
I love the fact that most people know one another, even if you don’t know their names you knows their faces, I love that my children can play outside and feel safe within our community, I love that people rally when needed, and I love that little bit of slow that our town has 🙂
So here is a BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! to the best town around!! ANd here’s to 100 more 🙂
Thanks for letting us continue to be a part of it all :):)