Well… it’s been a while. I often write when our dude is struggling, to work through it. So for some reason I thought I could only write about our journey with raising a son who battles mental illness daily. Then it dawned on me, who says? I can write about whatever I want to write about. It’s always been my way of processing. So I shall branch out a bit…
I am always grateful, and always lucky and blessed. But I am also human. I get frustrated, angry, sad, exhausted, and plain sick and tired. I am blunt and honest and wear my heart on my sleeve, albeit I always try to be kind. If you want all sunshine and lolly pops chances are I am not your type of person. I am real, always. I am finally ok with this.
I have finally reached that point in my life where I am OK with me. In the last few months I think it’s become more apparent that I don’t pretend to be something im not. And I don’t expect everyone to get me, or get my opinions. But I have also gotten to a place that I won’t let people treat me badly or make me feel less than because we don’t agree. You are no better than me, nor am I you.
I quite honestly am sick and tired of adults using differing opinions as a valid reason for belittling, blaming, shaming and treating others like crap. Not ok! Period. Ever. Don’t care. No excuse.
We don’t need others permission to be ourselves. I am not sure where or when we start to think we do, but we do, all of us. What I see playing out online sometimes, in the news etc, is plain and simple unacceptable. It’s sad,pathetic and completely shameful. And frankly I don’t get it and I am sad that people just don’t say anything, to avoid the above. You are allowed to use your voice. Just be kind using it. Don’t let hate and stigmas have a louder one.
I don’t care what kind of car you drive, the size of your house, the color of your skin, which gender you like or identify with, I don’t even care which washroom you use. I don’t care if you are a scholar, a drop out, if you win medals or prefer gaming.I don’t care if you go to church, are an atheist, any religion or somewhere between them all. And really, if it doesn’t directly affect someone in a negative way (which I have a hard time thinking of how any of really truly would) it does not give people the right to be cruel to you. I don’t mean to sound harsh, I just don’t care. Be yourself. Be you. I will be me. And hear me when I say there’s people like me out here who aren’t judging or stereotyping you for being you.
Those things are not what I find important. Those things don’t make the person you are. I choose to view each person I meet as the person, not lumped as a group. A rotten apple doesn’t make the whole basket rotten. Being different does not mean bad. To me at least, it means the opposite. If we were all the same, that’s where I would have a problem. How boring. How ridiculously boring.
I live by one rule. If you are kind to me, I am kind to you, and I actually mean it. Oh and if you aren’t kind, I don’t assume the rest of “your kind” aren’t. For the love of God, we are each individual. None of us are the same. That’s one of the most beautiful things about humanity to me.
You are the only person who needs to accept you. You are the only person who you have to prove anything to.
Those who choose to stereotype, belittle, bully and try to use their own anger and power and voice to make others feel less than? Who needs em? Not me.
Different is good! Normal is boring. And what the hell is normal anyway?